Love Dilemma Article

Turning Up The Heat

Most of us hope for a hot first date, so what’s the best way to make your first date sizzle? Paul Morris Segal, co-author of How to get the man you want & How to get the woman you want shares some tips.

You’ve been fantasizing about the perfect date all day, or all week, (maybe for years) and now the countdown is on as the final minutes tick by.

When the nerves kick in

You’re feeling more nervous than a rabbit caught in the headlights. If you hadn’t told all your friends about it, you might be tempted to do a runner and you’d be out of sight faster than Bolt at the Olympics.

What if you forget their name, star sign or can’t string more than two words together? What if you don’t realise you have spaghetti sauce dribbling down your chin, or worse all over your new clothes?

Turning up the heat (without coming across as a total desperado) isn’t as hard or as daunting as you might think. Just follow these 5 simple tips and they’ll be begging for more.

5 tips to ‘up the heat’ on your first date:

The hello kiss – I’m not suggesting you dive in for a grope 10 seconds into the first date (wait at least 20 seconds), but rather take a leaf out of the European book with a peck on each cheek (you can always slow it down a fraction for effect).

Share something during the date - Most people love to share desert, so, ask your date to choose the sweets, (preferably something smothered in chocolate as the endorphin PEA hit will heighten the attraction between you), and dig in.

Use the word ‘we’ early on - Asking ‘What are we having for breakfast tomorrow?’ might be a little too much too soon, so start with the odd remark, such as ‘We were lucky to get this table, weren’t we?’

Reveal an intimate detail about yourself - The easiest way to get someone to open up to you is to open up to them first, so reveal a little secret about yourself (one detail, not your whole life story – your date will fizzle not sizzle if you spend an hour telling them your sob story).

Touching - The more often you touch in a non-sexual, non-threatening way, the more comfortable your date is likely to feel around you and the easier it will be for you to ‘up the flirt factor’ a notch. (Just don’t overdo it to the point they think you must have been an octopus in a previous life.)

To find out more about Paul’s new book How to get the man you want and How to get the woman you want visit www.perfectdates.com.au or www.top-flirting-tips.com